I have come to the conclusion that doctors don't know a thing about delivering babies from a person who is still a baby. My daughter is 16. The pregnancy wasn't something planned but it isn't the baby's fault how she came to be. We are making the best of a bad situation. Hence, the name Snowe (means blessed one).
My daughter has been sick continuously since her due date which was Oct 3. UGH!!!!! Yes she is very much past due. But all the doctors see is that she is 16. They aren't concerned about the fact the baby is being over cooked. UGH!! Or the fact that Allee is very sick. The pregnancy has taken such a toll on her body. I am waiting right now for the doctor to call us back and tell us what to do and it feels as if they are taking their good sweet time at it.
She is nauseated, throwing up (dry heaves since she has been throwing up since 2am this morning), ears are ringing, she says she feels as if she is on a roller coaster, her skin is hot to the touch but fever is only 101 so they aren't worried, and severe back pain (back contractions ouch!!). I want to take her to the hospital but Allee keeps saying that she don't want to add to the bills if all they are going to do is send her home. So now we wait on incompetent doctors to return our calls. What doctor office don't open on Mondays??? Apparently here there are many of them.
I am sorry I am venting. I am just scared and don't know what to do so I write when that happens. If I don't write for a few days then you know I finally got Allee to the hospital. Keep an eye on Mother of 3's site and she will let everyone know if Snowe Lynn has made her appearance.
Monday, November 26, 2007
Sunday, November 25, 2007
Just life
Well, I feel as if I have been slacking on here because I haven't written in a couple days like I would like. The problem is my internet, phone, and cable was messed up. It took them from 11 until almost 7 last night and they still aren't finished. The problem seems to be that whoever installed the cable lines in this condo unit didn't do it correct. So, come Wednesday they will be coming in and rewiring the whole thing. UGH!!!!! They have our computer up for now and sometimes my phone is working (not always but sometimes).
They were going to leave us with nothing up but I screamed, hollered and complained before they left. Explaining to them that my daughter does her college online and has a test on Monday that she can't miss (unless she is delivering her baby that is). So, several hours later we have a computer.
We were so aggravated that we got out of the house to calm down a bit. I had won a couple of tickets to see "This Christmas" so we went a head and saw it. I needed it. It was a funny movie. The kicker is that it is realistic. So, that being said...............
1. Cable companies can be pains in the butt but eventually they will get the job done (sounds like government workers. hehehehe)
2. A good movie to make you forget you problems and enjoy a good laugh is "This Christmas".
3. I will get out a complete meal of recipes later today/early tomorrow to make up for no recipes yesterday.
Have a great weekend.
They were going to leave us with nothing up but I screamed, hollered and complained before they left. Explaining to them that my daughter does her college online and has a test on Monday that she can't miss (unless she is delivering her baby that is). So, several hours later we have a computer.
We were so aggravated that we got out of the house to calm down a bit. I had won a couple of tickets to see "This Christmas" so we went a head and saw it. I needed it. It was a funny movie. The kicker is that it is realistic. So, that being said...............
1. Cable companies can be pains in the butt but eventually they will get the job done (sounds like government workers. hehehehe)
2. A good movie to make you forget you problems and enjoy a good laugh is "This Christmas".
3. I will get out a complete meal of recipes later today/early tomorrow to make up for no recipes yesterday.
Have a great weekend.
Thursday, November 22, 2007
Quotes
Today I was watching a game show and they said a quote that just stood out to me. The guy said that William Shakespeare had said it originally but I didn't believe that that would be something Shakespeare would say. After research I found out that it was Joseph Ambrose who said it.
The quote is: “Love all, trust few, do harm to none.”
I know I don't love all, so I need to work on that part. I trust only a couple in the world so that part is covered. Most of all I try my best to do no ill will to anyone. Soooooooooooooooo What is the one quote that stands out in your mind that if someone asked you to quote that you can recite word for word and that you believe as it says.
The quote is: “Love all, trust few, do harm to none.”
I know I don't love all, so I need to work on that part. I trust only a couple in the world so that part is covered. Most of all I try my best to do no ill will to anyone. Soooooooooooooooo What is the one quote that stands out in your mind that if someone asked you to quote that you can recite word for word and that you believe as it says.
Happy Thanksgiving
I wish to send blessings over flowing to all of my friends, old and new.
Take time today to be thankful for
each breath you take for you never know when it will be your last one.
step you walk for there are people in this world who never have been able to walk and those of have lost their ability to walk
success you obtain and not only monetarily either for success is not measured by money alone
and most of all the love of your friends and family. For there are people that would give their life to have just one person to open their arms to say I love you.
Have a great thanksgiving.
Take time today to be thankful for
each breath you take for you never know when it will be your last one.
step you walk for there are people in this world who never have been able to walk and those of have lost their ability to walk
success you obtain and not only monetarily either for success is not measured by money alone
and most of all the love of your friends and family. For there are people that would give their life to have just one person to open their arms to say I love you.
Have a great thanksgiving.
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
$300 cake
During the holidays there is one favorite desert at our house. $300 cake. I will tell you this though........it is rich. Most people can't eat more than a slice unless they just love chocolate and I really do. :)
INGREDIENTS for the cake itself
2 c. sugar
2 c. self rising flour
1 c. water
1 stick margarine
1 c. wesson oil
4 tbs cocoa
1/2 c. buttermilk
2 eggs
1 tsp vanilla
Mix together in large bowl 2 c. sugar and 2 c. flour. Set aside. In saucepan boil 1 minute, 1 c. water, 1 stick margarine, 1 c. wesson oil, and 4 tbs of cocoa. Pour hot mixture over first mixture of dry ingredients and stir well. Then add 1/2 c. buttermilk, 2 eggs, and 1 tsp vanilla.
Pour in greased & floured pan (9x13). Bake at 350 degrees for 40 minutes.
Ingredients for topping
6 tbs milk
5 tbs cocoa
1 stick margarine
1 tsp vanilla
1 box confectioners sugar
1 c. nuts chopped (optional)
Boil 1 minute, 6 tbs of milk, 4 tbs cocoa, 1 stick margarine, and 1 tsp vanilla. Add 1 box of confectioners sugar and 1 c. nuts (optional). Pour this mixture of cake while it is still hot.
The best thing to do is start the topping as you are baking the cake. Also, it will do better if you cut the cake pieces before you pour mixture. That way all the chocolate will even be on the sides of the cake.
This also is better served with a scoop of ice cream. ENJOY!!!
IF you fix this let me know how it goes over. It is a hit at my home. :)
INGREDIENTS for the cake itself
2 c. sugar
2 c. self rising flour
1 c. water
1 stick margarine
1 c. wesson oil
4 tbs cocoa
1/2 c. buttermilk
2 eggs
1 tsp vanilla
Mix together in large bowl 2 c. sugar and 2 c. flour. Set aside. In saucepan boil 1 minute, 1 c. water, 1 stick margarine, 1 c. wesson oil, and 4 tbs of cocoa. Pour hot mixture over first mixture of dry ingredients and stir well. Then add 1/2 c. buttermilk, 2 eggs, and 1 tsp vanilla.
Pour in greased & floured pan (9x13). Bake at 350 degrees for 40 minutes.
Ingredients for topping
6 tbs milk
5 tbs cocoa
1 stick margarine
1 tsp vanilla
1 box confectioners sugar
1 c. nuts chopped (optional)
Boil 1 minute, 6 tbs of milk, 4 tbs cocoa, 1 stick margarine, and 1 tsp vanilla. Add 1 box of confectioners sugar and 1 c. nuts (optional). Pour this mixture of cake while it is still hot.
The best thing to do is start the topping as you are baking the cake. Also, it will do better if you cut the cake pieces before you pour mixture. That way all the chocolate will even be on the sides of the cake.
This also is better served with a scoop of ice cream. ENJOY!!!
IF you fix this let me know how it goes over. It is a hit at my home. :)
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
Recipes
Cookie Recipe
No Bake Chocolate-Peanut-Oatmeal Cookies
This recipe is good for when you don't want to turn on the oven.
INGREDIENTS:
1/2 cup milk
2 cups white sugar
3 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder
3 tablespoons crunchy peanut butter 1/2 cup butter
3 cups rolled oats
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
DIRECTIONS:
1. Wipe 1" wide band of butter around the rim of a 3 quart pan to prevent boil-over.
2. Combine milk, sugar, cocoa, butter and peanut butter.
3. Stir and bring to boil over medium heat. Let boil for 1 1/2 minutes, do not stir.
4. Remove from heat. Stir in oats and vanilla. Stir until oats evenly distributed.
5. Drop by teaspoon onto waxed paper. Cool. Makes 4 to 5 dozen.
No Bake Chocolate-Peanut-Oatmeal Cookies
This recipe is good for when you don't want to turn on the oven.
INGREDIENTS:
1/2 cup milk
2 cups white sugar
3 tablespoons unsweetened cocoa powder
3 tablespoons crunchy peanut butter 1/2 cup butter
3 cups rolled oats
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
DIRECTIONS:
1. Wipe 1" wide band of butter around the rim of a 3 quart pan to prevent boil-over.
2. Combine milk, sugar, cocoa, butter and peanut butter.
3. Stir and bring to boil over medium heat. Let boil for 1 1/2 minutes, do not stir.
4. Remove from heat. Stir in oats and vanilla. Stir until oats evenly distributed.
5. Drop by teaspoon onto waxed paper. Cool. Makes 4 to 5 dozen.
Sunday, November 18, 2007
Cookies
Hey everyone. I was just wondering if anyone has ever done the cookie trade?? It is where you give out recipes and exchange to one another. I love those kinds of things. Recipes are amazing to exchange so people can try different things.
So, starting tomorrow November the 19th until the new year, I will add a new recipe and a new cookie recipe each day. Just keep an eye on my blogs for those recipes. If you want then you can add your recipes/cookie recipes to those blogs each day as well. If we all do this then we could have some amazing new meals and deserts to start the new year with. Enjoy and look forward to those recipes starting tomorrow.
So, starting tomorrow November the 19th until the new year, I will add a new recipe and a new cookie recipe each day. Just keep an eye on my blogs for those recipes. If you want then you can add your recipes/cookie recipes to those blogs each day as well. If we all do this then we could have some amazing new meals and deserts to start the new year with. Enjoy and look forward to those recipes starting tomorrow.
Tagged
Well, I have been tagged twice in one blog at that........lol........that I need to make a list of 7 different things weird/crazy/unique about myself.
So, here it goes. And by the way "Mary Poppins" and Kimi..............you both owe me for this. lol hehehehehehehehe
1. I am about to be a grand-mother (any day at that she is late).
2. It don't bother me to sit in a room with no noise and just think. I know that is weird but you know that you did ask for weird things about myself. :)
3. I don't like roller coasters.
4. I had a dog once that was litter box trained. She was soooooooo cute. lol
5. I love to cook and can cook anything you give me a recipe to.
6. Two yrs ago I received 422 mother's day cards. Just because i didn't give birth to that many doesn't mean that that many kids don't think of me as "mom #2". :)
7. I want a house one day that the kitchen/dinning room area is bigger than the living room.
8. I'm not ticklish any part of my body.
9. I don't like Coke. UGH!!!!!!!! If it isn't PEPSI I don't want it.
10. I still believe in Santa Claus
11. I start shopping for Christmas the day after Christmas. So, I am already ready for Christmas except for the gifts for the soon to be grand-baby.
12. If I see a dance routine, I will watch it once, then try it myself and the 3rd time I will have the routine down to a tee. (Sorry Julie that you can't do it. AND she is a choreographer.)
13. I was once a Sunday school teacher. It seems like many moons ago but when I attended a church in NC I was a 2 yr old Sunday school teacher, youth leader, praise and worship team leader, drama teacher, and youth advisor. So, I was a little bit busy. Too bad I have moved so much or I would still be there with that great church.
14. LAST and PLEASE NO MORE TAGS!!! LOL I need a break......................
I would rather watch game shows all day long then to watch sitcoms.
So, I have done the 14 (because two people who I wont' mention their names again hehehehe) even though I should have had to only do 7. Since, I don't know that many people on here the only people I have to tag have already been tagged. Sooooooooooooooooooooo to those who want to respond then you can write me on my comments. I know you have all had to do this too many times yourself. Have a great week,
So, here it goes. And by the way "Mary Poppins" and Kimi..............you both owe me for this. lol hehehehehehehehe
1. I am about to be a grand-mother (any day at that she is late).
2. It don't bother me to sit in a room with no noise and just think. I know that is weird but you know that you did ask for weird things about myself. :)
3. I don't like roller coasters.
4. I had a dog once that was litter box trained. She was soooooooo cute. lol
5. I love to cook and can cook anything you give me a recipe to.
6. Two yrs ago I received 422 mother's day cards. Just because i didn't give birth to that many doesn't mean that that many kids don't think of me as "mom #2". :)
7. I want a house one day that the kitchen/dinning room area is bigger than the living room.
8. I'm not ticklish any part of my body.
9. I don't like Coke. UGH!!!!!!!! If it isn't PEPSI I don't want it.
10. I still believe in Santa Claus
11. I start shopping for Christmas the day after Christmas. So, I am already ready for Christmas except for the gifts for the soon to be grand-baby.
12. If I see a dance routine, I will watch it once, then try it myself and the 3rd time I will have the routine down to a tee. (Sorry Julie that you can't do it. AND she is a choreographer.)
13. I was once a Sunday school teacher. It seems like many moons ago but when I attended a church in NC I was a 2 yr old Sunday school teacher, youth leader, praise and worship team leader, drama teacher, and youth advisor. So, I was a little bit busy. Too bad I have moved so much or I would still be there with that great church.
14. LAST and PLEASE NO MORE TAGS!!! LOL I need a break......................
I would rather watch game shows all day long then to watch sitcoms.
So, I have done the 14 (because two people who I wont' mention their names again hehehehe) even though I should have had to only do 7. Since, I don't know that many people on here the only people I have to tag have already been tagged. Sooooooooooooooooooooo to those who want to respond then you can write me on my comments. I know you have all had to do this too many times yourself. Have a great week,
Christmas
I love Christmas and everything about it. The movies, the decorations,the giving, the music, just everything about it.
I just realized today just how many traditions I have about Christmas.
Like for instance, I always make sure to have at least 5 things under my tree that don't go to anyone in the house just in case someone we weren't expecting to visit shows up. If no one extra comes then we just have something extra for the house or even to hold on to for next year. I can not stand to open presents and leave someone to having nothing themselves.
I always make sure to have extra food. For some odd reason I end up with at least 5 people extra to eat with us. lol The more the merrier.
We start Christmas plans the day after Halloween. We just moved recently or else our tree would have already been up way before now. (one of our traditions didn't get to be done this year since our move. Tear tear)
Each year everyone that comes to our house gets to pick out a new ornament to put on the tree. We ask them to tell us why they chose their ornament and we put the date and their name on the ornament someway. Then the following year when we put up ornaments we can remember previous years and our friends for their contributions to our Christmas.
Those are just a few of the traditions we have. What are yours???
I just realized today just how many traditions I have about Christmas.
Like for instance, I always make sure to have at least 5 things under my tree that don't go to anyone in the house just in case someone we weren't expecting to visit shows up. If no one extra comes then we just have something extra for the house or even to hold on to for next year. I can not stand to open presents and leave someone to having nothing themselves.
I always make sure to have extra food. For some odd reason I end up with at least 5 people extra to eat with us. lol The more the merrier.
We start Christmas plans the day after Halloween. We just moved recently or else our tree would have already been up way before now. (one of our traditions didn't get to be done this year since our move. Tear tear)
Each year everyone that comes to our house gets to pick out a new ornament to put on the tree. We ask them to tell us why they chose their ornament and we put the date and their name on the ornament someway. Then the following year when we put up ornaments we can remember previous years and our friends for their contributions to our Christmas.
Those are just a few of the traditions we have. What are yours???
Saturday, November 17, 2007
The Musical Rent
My daughter and I just finished watching RENT for the hundredth time. It always amazes me how in the movie the way it shows diversity and how people over come those struggles. As different as each of the charachters life styles are they became a family. They had problems but they still overcome those problems when the going got tough.
I only wish that reality was the same. Too many people bolt out of peoples lives the second things go wrong. Then try to reappear the second things are going good. Why is that? Doesn't friendship mean more than a casual glance? Shouldn't we want to be there through good and bad?
I have only had 2 true friends in my life. The one friend died 7 yrs ago on November 15, 2000. This was the one who knew every detail of my life and everyone good and bad in my life. She never judged me and was always straight forward with me no matter what. She never hem hawed to keep from hurting me. She knew that I only wanted the truth and she wanted the same from me. If it hurt the other's feelings then we still knew that we would still be there. We would just need a couple of days to work through what happened.
The other one I have known since I was 12 and even though we had periods we didn't speak (mainly because of our ex's which is another blog altogether) when we saw each other again we started right back where we left off. Being friends in the good and the bad.
That is what being a true friend is all about. Being there for the good the bad, the happy times the sad times, leaning an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on. But few people in this world have an opportunity to find that type of relationship with another human being. When things go good who is the first person you want to call? Who do you wish was the person who was with you when it happens? When things are bad who do you call to help you through it? If you can sit
back and think about it you may have that type of person in your life and not even know it. Take time today and let whoever that friend(s) is/are know how much they mean to you. Remember something could happen today/tomorrow/this second and you not have another to let them know.
Thank you Kimi and Cathy for being that friend.
I only wish that reality was the same. Too many people bolt out of peoples lives the second things go wrong. Then try to reappear the second things are going good. Why is that? Doesn't friendship mean more than a casual glance? Shouldn't we want to be there through good and bad?
I have only had 2 true friends in my life. The one friend died 7 yrs ago on November 15, 2000. This was the one who knew every detail of my life and everyone good and bad in my life. She never judged me and was always straight forward with me no matter what. She never hem hawed to keep from hurting me. She knew that I only wanted the truth and she wanted the same from me. If it hurt the other's feelings then we still knew that we would still be there. We would just need a couple of days to work through what happened.
The other one I have known since I was 12 and even though we had periods we didn't speak (mainly because of our ex's which is another blog altogether) when we saw each other again we started right back where we left off. Being friends in the good and the bad.
That is what being a true friend is all about. Being there for the good the bad, the happy times the sad times, leaning an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on. But few people in this world have an opportunity to find that type of relationship with another human being. When things go good who is the first person you want to call? Who do you wish was the person who was with you when it happens? When things are bad who do you call to help you through it? If you can sit
back and think about it you may have that type of person in your life and not even know it. Take time today and let whoever that friend(s) is/are know how much they mean to you. Remember something could happen today/tomorrow/this second and you not have another to let them know.
Thank you Kimi and Cathy for being that friend.
Friday, November 16, 2007
Relationships
I was recently speaking to an old friend "Jason" that was talking about his conquests he has right now. One of the statements he made got me thinking. That comment was "I am no different in dating now then I was in high school".
Here is what I am thinking............................
That statement is somewhat true for people. The only difference in how people date in the adult years to when they are teenagers is the venue. Instead of McDonald's, a movie and then lovers lane to in the adult life you go to Steak and Ale, a show, and then back to yours/his place. I even had Jason explain the 3 date rule to me. Where as depending on how far he gets will set the stage for the next 3 dates and if there will ever be a 4th (which usually don't happen). Jason is in his late 30's, been married and divorced once, has 2 kids and one day wants to get married again but so far is look at relationships seems to keep him from it. Granted he don't have any problems getting women or even having people tell him no when he wants a "second" go at something but is that a way to live?
I have been married more than once and was cheated on very badly by my 2nd ex-husband. I haven't been out dating much since the marriage ended 7 yrs ago. I don't have to have someone to exist or to feel good about myself. Don't get me wrong I miss the being held, the being a couple part and the connection you have from a relationship but I am not one to jump in the bed with someone after just meeting them and that seems to be what I keep finding that guys expect by the so-called 3rd date.
I don't want to spend the rest of my life single (notice I didn't say alone), but I would rather be single than cheapen myself to have sex when I believe sex is more than just a freebie. I believe it is worth waiting until the relationship is mature enough to handle it.
I guess in a way I am old school. I think that the relationship has to develop before you can add intimacy of sex into the equation. Intimacy isn't just the sexual part either. Just because I don't get to the sexual part off right from the first date doesn't make me a prude. It means I want more than just that. I want true intimacy that comes from a touch, a word, a connection, or a friendship. Since I high school the dating may not have changed but my expectations have. I know what I want and expect in a relationship and I won't settle for less.
Another friend "Jessica" says I should just lower my standards and just have fun. What Jessica doesn't understand is that if I lower my standards then I will just get just that. Nothing more, nothing less, and basically nothing in a relationship.
I wrote a list one time of what I expect from a man and a relationship. There are 10 things that no matter what I won't except anything less on. The funny part is Jessica and I did these lists together and she is in a relationship she hates but don't know how to get out of because she don't want to be alone and it is very unsatisfying. When I asked did she keep to her list she said no. She had to lower expectations. So, now she is the one hurting not the guy. He is content because to Jim he didn't go lower he moved up with Jessica.
So, the purpose of this blog is....................
1. Dating is no different from high school. Just different Venues.
2. Set yourself a list of things that you will not settle less than those, how ever many, things.
3. When you settle for one thing you may be missing something right around the corner that is exactly what you are looking for in the first place.
4. Last but not least...........If you make a list don't put yourself in a position to have to settle for less. If you are an average person then it wouldn't make sense to put you want a millionaire. Be realistic to yourself and with what you want.
Here is what I am thinking............................
That statement is somewhat true for people. The only difference in how people date in the adult years to when they are teenagers is the venue. Instead of McDonald's, a movie and then lovers lane to in the adult life you go to Steak and Ale, a show, and then back to yours/his place. I even had Jason explain the 3 date rule to me. Where as depending on how far he gets will set the stage for the next 3 dates and if there will ever be a 4th (which usually don't happen). Jason is in his late 30's, been married and divorced once, has 2 kids and one day wants to get married again but so far is look at relationships seems to keep him from it. Granted he don't have any problems getting women or even having people tell him no when he wants a "second" go at something but is that a way to live?
I have been married more than once and was cheated on very badly by my 2nd ex-husband. I haven't been out dating much since the marriage ended 7 yrs ago. I don't have to have someone to exist or to feel good about myself. Don't get me wrong I miss the being held, the being a couple part and the connection you have from a relationship but I am not one to jump in the bed with someone after just meeting them and that seems to be what I keep finding that guys expect by the so-called 3rd date.
I don't want to spend the rest of my life single (notice I didn't say alone), but I would rather be single than cheapen myself to have sex when I believe sex is more than just a freebie. I believe it is worth waiting until the relationship is mature enough to handle it.
I guess in a way I am old school. I think that the relationship has to develop before you can add intimacy of sex into the equation. Intimacy isn't just the sexual part either. Just because I don't get to the sexual part off right from the first date doesn't make me a prude. It means I want more than just that. I want true intimacy that comes from a touch, a word, a connection, or a friendship. Since I high school the dating may not have changed but my expectations have. I know what I want and expect in a relationship and I won't settle for less.
Another friend "Jessica" says I should just lower my standards and just have fun. What Jessica doesn't understand is that if I lower my standards then I will just get just that. Nothing more, nothing less, and basically nothing in a relationship.
I wrote a list one time of what I expect from a man and a relationship. There are 10 things that no matter what I won't except anything less on. The funny part is Jessica and I did these lists together and she is in a relationship she hates but don't know how to get out of because she don't want to be alone and it is very unsatisfying. When I asked did she keep to her list she said no. She had to lower expectations. So, now she is the one hurting not the guy. He is content because to Jim he didn't go lower he moved up with Jessica.
So, the purpose of this blog is....................
1. Dating is no different from high school. Just different Venues.
2. Set yourself a list of things that you will not settle less than those, how ever many, things.
3. When you settle for one thing you may be missing something right around the corner that is exactly what you are looking for in the first place.
4. Last but not least...........If you make a list don't put yourself in a position to have to settle for less. If you are an average person then it wouldn't make sense to put you want a millionaire. Be realistic to yourself and with what you want.
Tuesday, November 13, 2007
Single Parenting
Well I have a new pet peeve. It is people who think they are better than everyone else just because they were raised with both biological parents.
I have raised my daughter, most of her life, by myself. Yes, I made mistakes but that don't mean I am a bad parent. It makes me human.
In this day and age, you can't find a single person who doesn't have a child or at least been married at least once that is over 25. In some cases younger. Our society has made it so simple to get a divorce that people don't try to make a marriage last. I actually had a friend who made sure that they didn't word it for better or worse, sicker or poorer, until death do you part in her wedding vows. She explained to me that was too much of a contract for her to give her life for a man. UGH!!!!!!!! Tammy was raised by both her biological parents and said that she saw how much her mom was such a subordinate to her father and didn't want that for herself. Tammy made her marriage last for a whole 5 yrs (longer than most these days) but got divorced because she wanted a life and not just live through her husband. Tammy and I both agree that men and women are equals and there for should be partners. Not one that is more superior than the other. We are not living in the 40-50's when June Cleaver made sure her husband had the meal on the table when he walked in the door saying Honey I am home. We are now in the age when microwaves work, restaurants are always open, there is a TV in almost every room and both parents have to work to pay the bills.
The main purpose of this blog is to say:
1. Every person is an equal. No matter what your sex, no matter your skin tone, and no matter if you were raised by one parent, a grand-parent, 2 parents, or an orphanage.
2. Just because you have 2 parents (biological or otherwise) doesn't mean you are better than anyone else. You just had two people to help raise you. And sometimes that isn't even true.
3. Don't judge a book by how they look, how they were raised, who raised them, where they live(d), their income or anything else like that. Just accept people for who they are as an individual. Good or bad, accept who they are.
4. Assuming the worst about a person before you get to know the person is wrong.
Well, I am done venting for the day.
I have raised my daughter, most of her life, by myself. Yes, I made mistakes but that don't mean I am a bad parent. It makes me human.
In this day and age, you can't find a single person who doesn't have a child or at least been married at least once that is over 25. In some cases younger. Our society has made it so simple to get a divorce that people don't try to make a marriage last. I actually had a friend who made sure that they didn't word it for better or worse, sicker or poorer, until death do you part in her wedding vows. She explained to me that was too much of a contract for her to give her life for a man. UGH!!!!!!!! Tammy was raised by both her biological parents and said that she saw how much her mom was such a subordinate to her father and didn't want that for herself. Tammy made her marriage last for a whole 5 yrs (longer than most these days) but got divorced because she wanted a life and not just live through her husband. Tammy and I both agree that men and women are equals and there for should be partners. Not one that is more superior than the other. We are not living in the 40-50's when June Cleaver made sure her husband had the meal on the table when he walked in the door saying Honey I am home. We are now in the age when microwaves work, restaurants are always open, there is a TV in almost every room and both parents have to work to pay the bills.
The main purpose of this blog is to say:
1. Every person is an equal. No matter what your sex, no matter your skin tone, and no matter if you were raised by one parent, a grand-parent, 2 parents, or an orphanage.
2. Just because you have 2 parents (biological or otherwise) doesn't mean you are better than anyone else. You just had two people to help raise you. And sometimes that isn't even true.
3. Don't judge a book by how they look, how they were raised, who raised them, where they live(d), their income or anything else like that. Just accept people for who they are as an individual. Good or bad, accept who they are.
4. Assuming the worst about a person before you get to know the person is wrong.
Well, I am done venting for the day.
Monday, November 12, 2007
Home
I have always heard home is where the heart is. Unfortunately I don't know where my heart is so does that mean I have no home? I can truly say I have lived all over the US. There aren't many states left for me to go to that I haven't been to already. The only problem is that there isn't one single place that I have lived that I felt at home.
Someone asked me the other day where was home to me. I said I don't know. He then said he meant where was I raised and that that is where home is suppose to be.
My problem is that I never felt at home where I was raised. I have tried to go back to my birthplace but within a very short time I realize that I don't belong there.
I had this conversation with an ex recently when he asked about how I feel about the new place I live in. He told me that he knew me well enough to know that I if I don't feel like I belong I won't last long at that location. He was right (and that takes a great deal for me to admit to him never the less to myself). My daughter has attended 48 schools from the time she was in Kindergarten until she was in 7th grade. That isn't good and I know it. Because we moved so much she loves moving now. I wish I could take back having moved so much but I can't. There is only one person and one injury to blame. I take the responsibility for the moves but my reasoning always led back to my ex-husband and/or my injury from work. either I needed to move to hide from K or I had to move to get a new doctor. The problem is now since I moved so much I have no connection to anything/anybody besides my daughter. Don't get me wrong. I love my daughter with all of my heart but isn't there more to life then just existing?
Well, sorry about the venting in this blog. I was just thinking and needed to put it down so I could stop thinking.
Have a great day,
Lost my heart in......................................
Someone asked me the other day where was home to me. I said I don't know. He then said he meant where was I raised and that that is where home is suppose to be.
My problem is that I never felt at home where I was raised. I have tried to go back to my birthplace but within a very short time I realize that I don't belong there.
I had this conversation with an ex recently when he asked about how I feel about the new place I live in. He told me that he knew me well enough to know that I if I don't feel like I belong I won't last long at that location. He was right (and that takes a great deal for me to admit to him never the less to myself). My daughter has attended 48 schools from the time she was in Kindergarten until she was in 7th grade. That isn't good and I know it. Because we moved so much she loves moving now. I wish I could take back having moved so much but I can't. There is only one person and one injury to blame. I take the responsibility for the moves but my reasoning always led back to my ex-husband and/or my injury from work. either I needed to move to hide from K or I had to move to get a new doctor. The problem is now since I moved so much I have no connection to anything/anybody besides my daughter. Don't get me wrong. I love my daughter with all of my heart but isn't there more to life then just existing?
Well, sorry about the venting in this blog. I was just thinking and needed to put it down so I could stop thinking.
Have a great day,
Lost my heart in......................................
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